The definition of a wish is: to have a desire for; to give form to; to want
I know that I have made wishes in the past, for example, I wished that when I was in labor that my child and I would safely make it through our journey, I wished the my mother would recover from the cancer she was diagnosed with, I wished that I would find and marry the man of my dreams. All things considered, they’ve all come to fruition. All of my children’s births were a success……..we both made it out with 10 fingers, 10 toes, and a joyful heart. My mother did survive her cancer, twice in fact! Last but not least, I did marry the man of my dreams. I am very blessed, in so many ways. It takes a lot to realize, especially when you think that your life is all wrong, or that nothing ever good happens to you, or “Why can’t I just get what I want once in a while???” Have you ever stopped and truly counted your blessings? Did you ever go back to those unspoken wishes and discover that they actually became a reality? Well, that is what’s been going on over here……….in order to realize the future, we need to let go of the past, and for me, I find that recognizing the wonderful things that have come to pass makes letting go of the more painful experiences easier. I have experienced things that were heartbreaking, scary, live altering. There have been situations where I had no control and have seen and heard things that I can’t believe I witnessed. At the end of the day, I recognize that if it weren’t for those moments I would be a totally different person. The heartache, the wonder, the impossibility of it all has created the woman that I am today……..and regardless of “wishing that never happened” well, it did, I can’t change that it happened, and because it did happen I’ve been graced with many beautiful gifts.
A wish is kind of like a gift you give yourself. It’s the ultimate in manifestation. Well, actually, it is manifestation in all its splendor. Some think that manifestation is only for those of divine quality……don’t you know that we all posses that divinity to make things happen in our lives? Our society breeds a species that is incapable of thinking for themselves, blaming everyone else but themselves for the way their life turned out, not realizing that they have the power to change everything but are strangled by their past or current calamities that they don’t believe for a second that they hold any power in their own life. Some think that life is just plain hard, it’s meant to be hard, and if it isn’t then you’re doing it all wrong; that as long as you’re suffering then you’re sacrificing and as long as you’re sacrificing then you’re entitled. There is a sense of righteousness that exists when you’ve reached a certain level of sacrifice, some actually keep track of all that they have done for others and then hold them to expectations that only set up the other for immediate failure; making others responsible for their happiness or misery. Thankfully, not all of our society functions in this extreme state of dysfunction, but I would bet most do. Even those that work to leave this life of trauma behind fall into this type of despair, it is only human after, the hope is that the lessons that show themselves to you during that time would be welcomed and received and gently released. It’s a state of being that requires a deep connection to self and a higher power. It requires a trust that all is well and life isn’t meant to cause endless years of suffering and unhappiness. Living the life that you create is up to you and what you choose to believe is possible. Life requires the hope that there is more.
I’ve given myself that task of making a book. Not one to be published to the masses but one solely for me; a book of wishes. I know! I know! It may seem silly and infantile but it’s my gift to myself to help with the process of manifestation that I’m about to embark on. In the past I have been able to manifest several changes in my life, here is a lovely account from my past:
“I was recently separated from my husband and was living in an apartment with my two children. It was just us and for the first time, we were happy. The life we had before that time had been difficult. No need to delve into the past but let’s just say even though life as a single mother, a full time job, and not enough money to pay the bills brought so much more joy to all of us then maintaining the painful and dysfunctional life we had before. One night while the children were asleep I was sitting and watching the Travel Channel. They were airing an episode on New Zealand. It was heavenly. The lush green landscape, the cities on the water, the sheep! I wanted to move there immediately. Along with the desire to be free from my born heritage I realized that what I was seeking was a new beginning. I had no intentions on remarrying, nor was I even interested in a relationship. I envisioned myself living the good life with my two amazing children and nothing more. To my dismay, deep in the recesses of my heart there was the subtle wish that maybe I would want another partner……..one very long day from that moment! I decided to make a list……..a list that would give all the qualities my new partner would posses; including ridiculous things like “This person would be a southern man and wear a cowboy hat and boots” “This person would love to dance and play an instrument” “This person would love my children as if they were their own” This person would love international cuisine” The list went on and on and on………I was expecting that I would not find this person, mostly because I wasn’t looking, but that I was darn near impossible for one person to possess all of those little nit-picky qualities I had listed, and I wasn’t willing to settle. No way! So to make a long and wonderful story shorter, this man basically landed right in my lap. He was a regular customer and our local farmstore and according to his side of the story the moment he saw me he said to his friend next to him “She is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, I’d give anything to be with her.” From that moment on, we’ve been inseparable. We are married and even share two more children together, and yes! He posses all the qualities on my list……..right down to being from the south and wearing a cowboy hat and boots!!!”
Now I’m not, for one second, intimating that I am an expert at making my wishes come true. I’m simply implying that I’ve had the good fortune to see it happen in my own life, and it’s because I took charge and willed it to happen, albeit unconsciously, but it happened nonetheless. I can only imagine what would happen if I was consciously choosing to will my wishes to reality......
Back to my wishes book, this is what I plan to do. My goal is to make a list of wishes, up to no more than 20. I’m hoping to decide on a number but I don’t want to make this an impossible goal for me (being a stay at home mom of four makes it a little difficult to carve out quality me time!) So, that will come later as I’m feeling my way around this task. I want to make this book a cherished treasure, a scrapbook or visionary that will lead me to my wish. I plan to decorate the book to inspire hope, change, and freedom! I will dedicate a single page (or two) to each desire; each page sprinkled with eye candy that will tantalize my manifestation senses.
Now, when I think of the wishes I will put on my list, my hope is that they will embody the practical and whimsical side of me. Being a Libra I’ll need a healthy balance of the two. Therefore, I plan to wish for things that as an adult, I might otherwise stray from, while honoring that side of me that needs some structure. To begin my list this is what I have:
1. Learn to horseback ride
2. Learn to speak French
3. Spend more quality alone time with each member of my family
4. Write a book
5. Be a more active community member (giving more to those around me)
To begin with, these are the things that have been on my mental wish list. These are the things that I secretly say to myself when I get a moment of peace and clarity. So, these are my first five wishes. Now it’s up to ME to make them happen. No one else can be responsible to make my wishes come true, just me! I have to do the leg work, the mental work, and the seeking. I have to discover within myself how to make this wishes come true.
The power of manifestation lies within me, and you! It is an endless well of magic just waiting to be tapped and used to create wonderful things in this world, for all of us! One secret that I have learned through simply living, is that to make a wish for yourself, most times it takes doing something for someone else that makes it all possible. So, if one of your wishes is to cultivate more happiness in your life, might I suggest doing something for someone else? Volunteer. Giving of yourself is so freeing. If you bring joy to someone else then naturally you will receive joy back! If your wish is to carve out more alone time, take note of the little moments that you are alone and make them count. Sometimes those moments come and go so fast that it’s hardly worth mentioning, but at the end of the day, they add up. Slow down, breathe, and focus yourself inward so that you can enjoy that 45 seconds of peace before the fray continues. It may not be exactly what you’re wishing for, but, you’ll notice more positive things happen in your life if you don’t discount the little things. Wishes have a strange way of giving up exactly what we need. Be flexible. Realize that if you wish to fall in love it may come about in a different way. Be open to all things. Try not to be so rigid in your wishes that you can’t be available to receive the unexpected gifts that come that ultimately lead you right to the door of your initial wish, just down a different path than you imagined.
Have no expectations. One thing is for certain…….Hope springs eternal! Join me, won’t you? On this journey towards making our dreams come true.
